SUFFOLK -- "He's baptized all my children. He's confirmed me and my ex-husband," said "Mary," as she asked 13News to call her. "Very big part of her family. There's not one church document without his name on it."
The name: Piotr ("Peter") Bialkowski. Reverend Piotr Bialkowski. The 36-year-old native of Poland faces a charge of Domestic Assault.
Bialkowski, who served the Catholic parishes of Church of the Good Shepherd in Smithfield and Saint Mary of the Presentation in Suffolk, is accused of attacking "Mary" in her home. She explained Bialkowski fathered her youngest child.
"Mary" offered her daughter's birth certificate, which lists the priest as the father, and a notarized document that acknowledges paternity as proof of the connection between her and Bialkowski. She said they began having sex in 2008, and she kept the relationship going until earlier this year.
"I was depressed and lonely, and he knew what vulnerabilities I had, and he would use those to his advantage, and he would always say, you know, 'If you go tell anyone,' you know, 'I'll be deported back to Poland,'" she recalled. "He had me convinced that we were gonna be together forever and that we would have a family forever."
Despite the fact that she made the decision to break off the relationship about 5 months ago, Bialkowski remained part of her life, in part, because of the 2-year-old whom he supposedly fathered. "Mary" told 13News one day towards the end of November he came to her home and attacked her while a friend was at the house.
"I'm up against a wall, and I fell, and the person who was here, actually, pulled him off of me," she said.
"Mary" filed a charge against Bialkowski and took out a protective order.
Parishioners at the churches he served found out he no longer would be at either through a letter read at Masses December 3 and 4. Monsignor Walter Barrett, Episcopal Vicar for the Diocese of Richmond's Eastern Vicariate, read this statement from Bishop Francis X. DiLorenzo:
Dear Friends in Christ,
I regret to inform you that the Diocese has been made aware of an accusation of improper conduct involving your Pastor, Father Peter Bialkowski.
There was an immediate investigation, and Father Bialkowski confirmed that the accusation is true. He has resigned as Pastor, effective immediately. He has also been suspended from all priestly duties, and will be leaving the parish in the next few days.
As a priest of the Diocese of Rodan in Poland, Father Bialkowski is under the jurisdiction of the Bishop of Rodan.
Msgr. Walter Barrett is with you today as the Episcopal Vicar for the Eastern Vicariate and my representative. He will be available to speak to individuals as needed after Mass.
In the coming weeks my staff and I will be working on behalf of the two parishes to assign a new pastor. We ask you to please keep all those involved in your prayers.
Sincerely yours in Our Lord,
Most Rev. Francis X. DiLorenzo
Bishop of Richmond
"I feel shame and humiliation, and it' s definitely not something I have taken light in my life," said "Mary," who acknowledges her own responsibility in the relationship she said took place. "I kind of feel torn that my daughter doesn't have a father right now, and, definitely, she loves him, and I have no doubt that he loves her."
A former parishioner, who contacted 13News, wrote this in Bialkowski's defense:
He was an awesome priest. Just like you and me he sinned. Haven't you ever 'messed up'? He hasn't had his day in court. He has not been found guilty.
We reached out to Bialkowski through hat parishioner, who has been in touch with him since his arrest. 13News did not hear back from the priest.
"Mary" said Bialkowski is scheduled to be in court December 13.