I just got a job offer and can’t wait to give my current boss, the owner of the company, my two-week notice. I not only want to hurry up and move on to greener pastures, but I also want to tell my current boss how I feel about some of her management practices. The office is real small, so there’s no formal exit process when someone leaves. I know it’s important not to burn any bridges, so I will be very careful with not only what I tell my boss but how I say it. I shared my good news with a couple of close friends and told them how I plan to tell my boss what I think of her management style. I trust both of them and know they have my back. They told me I should just move on and keep my mouth shut, but this is something I feel compelled to do. I don’t have any great expectations for her to change, but it will be liberating; and if there’s the slightest chance it could make this woman change or think about changing, it would be so worth it. What do you think I should do?
Can’t just walk out the door
Dear Can’t just walk out the door:
I can empathize with you and completely understand your desire to speak up, but I can also see the validity in your friends’ recommendations. I believe you would be very careful with the content and delivery of your message, but I also realize you have no control over how your boss will receive it. The fact you are so determined to express your feelings tells me your boss’s management style leaves a lot to be desired. That being said, I can see merit in handling your departure either way. I suggest you go with your gut but keep your expectations in check if you decide to speak your mind.
Best of luck!
I bet you never get someone emailing you with some good news. I emailed you last year about not being treated fairly by my boss at Thanksgiving because I’m single and don’t have kids. When I wrote you, it was the third year in a row I had to work the day after Thanksgiving, even though I requested it off way before any of my colleagues did. Like I told you before, I thought my boss was the kind of guy that thought it was more important for people with kids to have that day off than those of us who don’t have any, even though I have family that’s just as important to me. I was too scared to say anything to him, until I wrote you and you gave me some ideas of what I could suggest to him. To my complete surprise, he was receptive but said it was too late to ask people to change their plans. He told me to remind him again for next year (2013), and he would see what he could do. Well, I approached him months in advance, and I not only have the Friday off, but he apologized for being so narrow-minded! He let everyone know I was getting the day off, and that someone could volunteer to come in that day or he would have a lottery with everyone’s names except mine! I thought I knew what kind of guy he was, but I was obviously mistaken. Thank you, Roze!
Things can change for the better
Dear Things can change for the better:
You are very welcome! I am so glad things have worked out for you! Your boss did the right thing. I cannot help but believe your lack of complaining all those Fridays, as well as your respectful approach, contributed to him seeing the error of his ways and being fairer this year, and hopefully, for years to come. I know you will have a wonderful Thanksgiving!
© 2013 Rozanne R. Worrell