How should a woman feel if she is told that she’s "too attractive" to be hired within the transportation industry? How do I get an employer to look past the face value and see my work ethics and personal goals?
More than a pretty face
Dear More than a pretty face:
Understandably, a woman would be upset if she was not hired solely because of her good looks. You do not want your appearance to be a distraction during the job selection process. I strongly suggest that you dress conservatively and impress interviewers with your knowledge, skills, and abilities. Be prepared to thoroughly answer any question posed to you and to ask well-thought-out questions showing your knowledge and interest in the organizations you are interviewing with. Also, be sure your resume reflects the specific qualifications required for the particular jobs you are applying for. Best of luck!
My employer does Gallop Poll surveys to see if we are happy at work. Some of the questions concern management. It’s supposed to be confidential, but each survey has a distinct identification number. Consequently, some employees are scared to answer truthfully. This year, our supervisor even had us do a mock survey before the real one, so she would know how we felt. In the past, when the survey results were all in, we would meet as a group to discuss the results and brainstorm on how to raise our department scores. For the first time, our boss has decided to have a one-on-one with each of us to discuss the results. Some of us are angry about this set-up because we’re not hearing the same information and feel everything should be open. She’s doing this on her own, unbeknown to HR. I think she’s being unethical. Normally, I have no problem speaking my mind, but my one-on-one is next week and I’m not sure what to say. Help!
Disappointed with boss’s antics
Dear Disappointed with boss’s antics:
I understand your disappointment and concern with the way your boss is handling the survey results. When you have your one-on-one, go with your gut and respectfully express your displeasure with the one-on-one process and anything else pertaining to the survey you feel comfortable discussing. Hopefully, those co-workers who share your sentiments will have the courage to speak up as well. If your boss indicates that she will maintain the new process, you and at least one other co-worker should take the issue to HR. Be sure to advise HR that you tried to remedy the problem before coming to them.
I treated a former colleague terribly and even though I apologized for my awful behavior, I still feel rotten and real embarrassed. This person gave a two-week notice when she resigned. After she submitted her resignation letter, she emailed everyone in our department with the news. I was very hurt that she didn’t think enough of our friendship to let me know ahead of time. I thought we were a lot closer than she obviously thought. So after I got her email, I gave her a piece of my mind in front of other workers. She tried to explain why she thought it was best to keep her news to herself, but I stormed off while she tried to explain. Before her last day, I apologized in an interoffice email for my outburst and she was kind in her response. It’s been almost two years since she left and we haven’t had any contact. I’d like to have a friendship with her. What do you think about me calling her?
Dear Deeply regretful:
You should do what you obviously want and need to do in order to have some inner peace, regardless of what anyone else thinks. That being said, I see no problem with you contacting this person and expressing your sincere apology again. Hopefully, she will appreciate your call and want to reestablish the friendship you once had with her as well. Best of luck!
© 2011 Rozanne R. Worrell