My husband is going through a huge rough patch with his work. He works totally on commission and none of his deals are coming through for him, and the ones that came through quite a while ago aren’t closing like they should. Needless to say, it’s put a tremendous amount of stress on him (and me) and is making this holiday season really tough when it comes to handling our regular monthly bills, much less, the buying of gifts for our family and close friends. I’m writing you because we’ve been invited to a couple of parties from guys in his office and these guys are doing real well with their businesses. Although they work for the same company my husband does, my husband’s client base has been hit real hard by the recession. As you’ve probably guessed, I have no desire to go to these parties and listen to his colleagues and others boast about their great lives and big purchases for Christmas and in general. My husband feels that we should attend, but it will only make me more depressed than I already am. Don’t you think it would be stupid for us to go?
Negative on husband’s colleagues’ parties
Dear Negative on husband’s colleagues’ parties:
Whether or not you and your husband go to these parties should be up to your husband. I suggest that you go along with whatever he decides to do. Skipping the functions may not be in the best interest of his business. These parties could in fact turn out to be good networking opportunities for him.
My hairstylist, who I like very much, was fired from his job over a month ago because his employer overheard him discussing an opportunity to open up his own place. Not knowing he had been let go, I called the shop to make an appointment and was told by the staff that he had left the area and left recommendations as to who his customers should see in his absence. I didn’t make an appointment and immediately called the guy. He’s not only still in town but he also didn’t provide his old employer with any recommendations for his clients. Unfortunately, he signed a contract with his old employer that says he can’t work in his field for a year within a five mile radius of his old employer’s location. Although he’s real angry that his old employer is telling people those things, he has no plans to confront them about it. I feel like someone, possibly me, should let the shop know that the guy and some of his clients know they’re lying. What do you think I should do?
Disgusted hairstylist’s client
Dear Disgusted hairstylist’s client:
The best way for you to support your hairstylist and possibly make a difference is for you and his other clients not to have your hair done at the shop he was fired from. Confronting the shop about the lying should be handled by the hairstylist.
© 2011 Rozanne R. Worrell