I’m mad at my boss but I’m also mad at myself. My boss’s wife works for a national charity that has a local office on the Peninsula. Solicitation flyers for this non-profit were placed in everyone’s company mailbox. Not only do I have no connection to this national charity, but it’s also one of those charities that got a negative review by Charity Navigator, the outfit that rates non-profits (http://www.charitynavigator.org/). Anyway, I caved and gave some money to the organization. I thought if I didn’t it would negatively impact my relationship with my boss. I’ve seen his jerk side and didn’t want to experience it firsthand. Any thoughts?
Dear Caved in:
I strongly believe a person’s charitable giving is a personal choice. A boss should never pressure his/her employees directly or implicitly to contribute to a particular charity for any reason. If, however, a charity is promoted in one’s office, no one, especially management, should track or give the impression that employee participation is being monitored.
As to your particular situation, I sympathize with you. Don’t beat yourself up over your decision.
I got a new job a few months ago and I’m real thankful for it, but I’m faced with a situation I’d like your help with. My boss has a mentor program for her new hires, and my mentor had my job before me. She was promoted, so I figured she had done my job well and I could learn a lot from her, but just the opposite is happening. She finds fault with everything I do. All she ever does is criticize my work and even tells me I don’t ask her questions “the right way.” My boss, who is also my mentor’s boss, has only praised my work, and our clients have also given me positive feedback. So, you might ask, why do I care what my mentor thinks? I’m worried because she weighs in on my official performance evaluation. What do you think about this? How should I handle it?
Dealing with an unsupportive mentor
Dear Dealing with an unsupportive mentor:
I only know what you have emailed me, but it sounds like your mentor is not giving you much of a chance. If you had not told me about her promotion, I would have thought she was threatened by you. I realize it will not be easy, but I suggest you initiate a conversation with her. Respectfully reference her specific comments when you ask for substantive recommendations on ways to improve your work and your way of asking questions. Also, with no disdain but sincere concern, let her know you are confused by her criticism because you have only received positive feedback from your boss and clients. If you do not receive any constructive suggestions or at the least, see a change in her attitude, go to your boss with the issue. Be sure to let her know of your attempt to remedy it on your own.
Best of luck!
© 2012 Rozanne R. Worrell