I’ve always thought people in management would excel in decision-making, but my current boss proves my thinking so wrong. Her lack of good judgment and objectivity are so disappointing. I had heard she holds grudges but this takes the cake. She had a falling out with a guy she used to work with over ten years ago. Since his retirement, he was diagnosed with some kind of rare cancer and recently died. Not only did she not contribute to our company’s purchase of a floral arrangement for his family, but she made those of us who went to the funeral take our vacation time to go. But about six months ago, there was a funeral for a guy whose wife used to work here; and she let everyone go without having to take time off. As you can imagine, I sure don’t want to cross her. Do you have any thoughts or personal experiences you care to share?
Fearful of grudge-holding boss
Dear Fearful of grudge-holding boss:
Your concerns are warranted. Ideally, we want individuals in management positions to be fair and objective. Unfortunately, I have had my share of experiences with bosses who cannot let things go. One that comes to mind was the time there was a farewell lunch held in my honor. My boss, who I had had a misunderstanding with, not only showed up late but he revealed his true colors when it was his turn to speak. He was obviously ill-prepared by the way he fumbled through his empty speech. As much as I was embarrassed and hurt, he actually ended up damaging his already sullied reputation. This and other experiences of my own as well as the many shared with me by my clients and peers only reinforce the importance of managers maintaining their professionalism. We discover the true character of people by the decisions and choices they make. Whether we are bosses or employees, we cannot go wrong by treating others the way we want to be treated – with respect.
I work in the real estate industry. Even though my job isn’t in sales, it’s still been real tough to work in this business for the past six years. I’m thankful to have a job but I’m really happy to be a salaried employee versus on commission like the sales people. I’m writing you for some help in dealing with my boss who owns the company I work for. It’s so hard to hear him say at least once a quarter how crazy we would be if we weren’t dusting off our resumes and keeping an eye open for other jobs. It’s always doom and gloom. His remarks make all of us feel like we could be without a job at any time. All of us want to know if the company is doing poorly, but it’s hard to stay motivated and feel secure when we’re working for a Chicken Little. I’ve let him know his remarks bug me, but I’ve always done it in a joking way. I don’t think he realizes that because of his words, he could easily come to work one day and find notices from all of us.
The sky is always falling
Dear The Sky is always falling:
Although I applaud your boss for what sounds like transparency when he talks to you and your co-workers about the condition of the real estate market and his company in particular, it appears that the manner in which he delivers this information could be improved upon. I doubt he wants to kill the office morale; nor do I think he wants you and your co-workers to spend more time looking for other employment than you do in working for him. I suggest a couple of you meet with him and respectfully communicate the damaging effect his words are having on all of you. Hopefully, he will either change his message or let you know you are smart to pursue other job opportunities.
Best of luck!
© 2013 Rozanne R. Worrell