I do volunteer work with a woman who is incredibly accomplished in the business world and academically. She was a big muckety-muck with a Fortune 500 company and went to an Ivy League school. Now, she’s a big-time consultant. Me, on the other hand, I’m just a substitute teacher who went to a mediocre college. When I’m around this woman, all my insecurities come out. I can’t deny I feel inferior and lose all my self-confidence and gumption when I’m around her. I respect all she’s done but can’t stand the way she acts like she’s so above me when we volunteer with each other. When we work on fundraisers, she treats me as though I’m beneath her, like I’m her assistant. Since I don’t feel equal to her, I find myself putting up with the way she is. Can you help me?
Dear Feeling inferior:
First, there is no place for judgment or airs when one is volunteering his/her time and energy with no expectation of receiving anything in return. Second, although I can understand why you feel the way you do, I want to shake some sense into you. You have as much, if not more, to contribute as your fellow volunteer. But you, above anyone else, must believe this in order to be able to make a change in your relationship dynamics with this woman. So, recognize your worth and continue to give all you are capable of giving! Best of luck!
I work for a company where I have no control over the scheduling of the appointments with my clients. When I first got here, I thought this was great because it was an administrative matter I was thrilled not to have to deal with. But now I’m finding it very frustrating because more people are scheduled to see me than I would ever schedule for myself. There’s even some double booking going on. I realize it’s all about the money, but as a result, I’m always behind, which makes for a lot of unhappy clients, to put it mildly. And recently, I’ve had some leave when the wait got too long. I don’t know if the clients that left will come back or if I’ve lost them for good. And I’m even concerned about the ones that hung in there and waited such a long time to see me. I tried talking to the administration but there was no changing their ways. I’m new to the area and it took me a long time to get this job, so abandoning ship is not an option I can consider any time soon. Do you have any suggestions besides looking for another job?
If you have not already done so, I would immediately call every client that left before you could see them. Apologize profusely for what happened and explain the situation. Hopefully, you have already apologized to all the clients that stayed to see you. From what you have told me, the only thing you can control at this time is the service you provide to your clients, so make sure it is exceptional in order to minimize your organization’s unprofessional scheduling practices.
© 2013 Rozanne R. Worrell