I don’t need any advice, but I’m curious to hear what you think about a guy I need to vent about. Almost every single morning, this co-worker of mine has coffee with our boss. I know I shouldn’t let it get to me, but a lot of us get ticked off every time we see the two of them leave the building together. It also bugs us because this guy is pretty worthless as far as work goes, and we think his little coffee rendezvous with the boss keep him from getting any heat for not being a producer. I know this isn’t unusual in the workplace, but it doesn’t make it any less annoying. Who has ever liked a brown-noser?
Not a brown-noser fan
Dear Not a brown-noser fan:
I understand how you and your co-workers feel, and I sympathize with all of you, but I have concerns about your boss’s behavior as well. Neither one of them is using good judgment, but I do expect more from your boss in that he/she should recognize and care about the effect and repercussions these daily coffee klatches are having on his/her other employees and the overall morale and potentially even the productivity of the office.
I got off of a committee at my work, but now I’m concerned that the committee members won’t honor my departure. It’s my office’s social/community committee, which I had been on since I started working here. I started having mixed feelings about this collateral duty shortly after I agreed to be a part of it. I like the purpose of the committee, which is to put on social events for office personnel and to give back to our local community, but it became obvious in no time that since participation is voluntary and you don’t get evaluated on what you do, most of the committee members do very little. So it was always a few of us doing all the work. Everyone was surprised when I told them I had to leave so I could concentrate more on my “real” work. Several told me they would reach out for me when they start working on the big events and projects. Are you kidding me?! That’s why I got off! It’s not that I don’t care, but I got tired of being taken advantage of and never feeling like I had done enough since hardly anyone else was doing anything. These people have no shame. I know they will contact me for assistance, and I won’t know how to say no. Help!
How do I say no?
Dear How do I say no?:
Been there, done that! I wish it was not the case, but I can empathize with you. I understand how difficult it can be to say no to requests for help when you have always been there for these people in the past. Nevertheless, if you have officially stepped away from this collateral duty, I suggest you say no with utmost respect and sympathy. Otherwise, you may as well have never resigned from the committee. Best of luck!
© 2012 Rozanne R. Worrell